Your own time Zone..

Are you worried that at this age you are still not successful? You have not yet cleared your exams after so many attempts. Or you are 28 and still not married? Do you get stressed to see your peers in  better position than you. If your answers are yes, then you are ignoring your time zone and yes your true happiness too.


Many a times, we gets anxious and worried to see others climbing the stairs of success n happiness before us, and that anxiety doubles if the person is younger or less experienced from us. But we forget the fact that there is a definite time for everything in our lives, and before that no one gets anything.

A wise thought explains this perfectly :-

“God has planned happiness for each one of us at the right time in our life. The only thing is that, he doesn’t share his calendar with us. So just enjoy the surprises”.

Shahid kapoor once said in his interview “Things come to you, when they are meant to come to you.”

Seems very superficial na? Let us understand this with a story I once read.

A dog and an elephant became pregnant at the same time. In three months the dog gave birth to 6 puppies. Another six months passed and the dog gave birth to another dozen of them. The elephant was still pregnant. At the end of eighteenth month, the dog approached the elephant and mocked him “we started together. I’m a proud mother of a dozen of grown up dogs today and you are still  at  the same place. What’s happening?”


The elephant smiled and replied “it will take two years for my baby to be born. But when it does, and when it will step out, the earth will feel it. When it will walk the human will stop to look at it in admiration.  When it will grow up, it will be visible from meters away..I am carrying a baby elephant. Which is mighty and whose presence matters. Can you say these things about your puppies?

The dog was dumbstruck and went away.

This happens with our lives as well. We get anxious and agitated with the things  our peers get, lamenting that we are not the receiver of things as them. But we forget that may be which is taking time will be much better than others. We need to wait patiently for what we deserve, which we  will get but at the right time .

We should not loose faith when we see others receive answer to their prayers. Everything is best when it comes at a right time.

Again I would quote something told by Shahid Kapoor ( I m not his fan by the way) . He said ” everyone gets hit by a humongous wave in his life and career which changes it for the better. It is better that it hits us slightly later because if it hits us early and we are not experienced enough , it will take us in.

clocks.jpg.Do just relax and let the universe do its work on the right time

All the best!



The Mornings….

I open my eyes to new mornings,

With hopes and faith renew.

I take in the fresh air with confidence,

With more smiles and doubts few.

The world is good and the world is bad,

There are different shades in every soul.

The darker the night the brighter are the days,

And the more beautiful are the dew.


I often sit back and ponder upon my life,

Where is my light , what is my goal.

Then, I have a long way to go I feel,

Fulfilling  lots of responsibilities and role.

The dreams come true for those who dare

To take risks and strive for their stage,

Life is easy , if you believe in yourself, else a horrible maze.

Lets walk with confidence on the path we go,

Sharing love and all the knowledge , we know..




The Book(ie) Story

Strolling along the footpath one evening, I came across a man, who had hundreds of books spread before him ,amusingly a girl like me who is a born bookworm could not resist to take a look at them. now you may wonder why would I only look at it and not buy some, if I declare myself as someone who likes to read, but here I would mention that I had wandered out of my small room to get some fresh air and may be buy some fruits if I could find any. And to mention this I want to say that I hardly had 100 RS which I didn’t believe could fetch me any good book. So after satisfying my eyes and making myself yearn to have one of those I came back with a promise that I will surely come back with a heavy pocket to buy some of those.
Scrabbling through my closet I luckily found the envelope which my brother had handed me on this rakhi ,which I had hid, to buy something special later. Realizing that that special is definitely this. With a broad smile I took a 500 note from it fumbling to myself that it would certainly fetch me 2-3 books that would keep me alive at least for a week.
I didn’t know that a surprise was waiting for me. As I stepped on the same footpath again, my twinkling eyes spotted a board kept in a obscure corner beside the book seller with 20/- each sign on it.
Not able to believe n resist my curiosity( my enormous happiness to be precise) I confirmed the price from the man to which he replied ” koni pan ghiya, fakt 20 rupye”. ( pick up any one, it’s all for only 20 RS.)  If I was not standing on a busy footpath I would have danced for a whole minute on his answer. Grabbing as many as I thought would be of my liking I came back with the happiest feeling since many days. it was like i had grabbed upon a fortune that too so cheap.
N here I am, keeping each book close to my face , smelling the scent of an old book that reminds me of the smell we used to have in our school libraries which was always brimming with books new and as old as a decade. the smell which was more soothing than a rose and the feeling of so many ‘Unread’ is incomparable….

P.s. the vendor has a bookstore which he wishes to close and so it was a sort of mega sale comprising of some decade old books. I bought mostly the old books of which the pages had faded away with time.


Surrogacy ban- a quest for finding good in it…

“After I went through a series of miscarriages, surrogacy was the option I considered as my last hope, but now it seems I am barking up the wrong tree,” says Anita, a homemaker who wants to go for surrogacy.

The surrogacy regulation bill 2016 which was passed on 24th August 2016 has brought about turmoil in the lives of surrogate mothers who has taken it professionally and also for those who had wished for a child through surrogacy.

According to the new law, commercial surrogacy has been completely banned, allowed only for altruistic purpose and that also  for only those married couples who are childless for 5 years with no adopted child. This is a big blow to homosexual couples, foreigners, and people wishing to be a single parent.

This has not  only curtailed the liberty of the people who wish to have child without being married but also of those surrogates who are in the field since many years and bank on it, for earning lakhs in one pregnancy.

Sushma Swaraj, while announcing the bill said that something which was earlier initiated as a need has now become a hobby. Celebrities already having two children are going for  a third through surrogacy.

Some activist who are against the surrogacy also claim that commercial surrogacy is against human rights. It is like renting your womb for some money. Though different people have different arguments, the surrogates for the protection of whom this bill has been passed have a different tale to narrate.  “What is wrong in this? The childless mother gets her baby and we get money for our livelihood .The money we get help us live a dignified life .If I would have been unhappy I would have not attempted it repeatedly “.says Reshma a surrogate mother.

Surrogacy is a benefit which is enjoyed by both;. The mother as well as the receiver of the child. But the surrogate mothers are more at risk and are often exploited. The agencies facilitating the surrogacy often cheats these poor surrogates giving only half the amount promised and many mothers often lose their life owing to lack of after delivery care.


Without considering the resentment shown by the people, this cannot be denied that surrogacy is, like misusing the power of being able to bear a child. A business of womb renting. Which is morally incorrect. After all earning money by selling kidneys is also the same as this and it is too a crime..

Surrogacy, a process which can help a couple enjoy the happiness of having a child should be used in its sacred manner only when it is most necessary , not in a way as it is done today. Thinking about the surrogates well being it is a commendable step taken by the government. But it is also a issue to look upon as to how well will it be taken by the surrogacy agencies the surrogates themselves.


ज़िन्दगी कैसी है पहेली हाय……

पलों को शब्दों की लकीरों से उकेरना है ज़िन्दगी,

यादों को तस्वीरीं में समेटना है ज़िन्दगी

रंग बहुत है इंद्रधनुष में

इन रंगों को खूबसूरती से इनमें रंगना है, ज़िन्दगी।


चाहतों की उम्मीदों में जीना है ज़िन्दगी

दिल के पन्नो को शब्दों में पिरोना है ज़िन्दगी

प्यार से खुली बाहों में सिमट जाती है दुनिया

उन्ही बाहों को ढूंढना है ज़िन्दगी।


समय है मौके हैं, अवसर है कई आसपास

उन्हें सही समय में पहचानना है ज़िन्दगी

और कोई तुम्हे समझे या न समझे

खुद को कायनात में साबित करना है ज़िन्दगी।


रोना है हँसना है समय के साथ बहना है

खुल के पूरे मन से ही तो जीना है, ज़िन्दगी!


The ‘Grey side’ of Fandom…



“Main aaj jo kuch bhi hoon apne fans ki wajah se hoon, agar wo nai to main kuch bhi nai” (Today whatever I am, I am because of my fans; without them I am nothing.). The recently released movie “Fan” has introduced us to some very dark and horrifying side of the fame and fan following, the celebrities in our country face. For some people who call themselves fans, the madness goes to an extent they themselves are not able to fathom. Throwing the celebrities in the zenith of their likeness and dropping them deep down mercilessly for a trivial mistake. The situation changes in a second.

People have done  some exceptional works creating masterpieces for their stars devoting their time and money. The famous painter M.F.Hussain was also a diehard fan of the Bollywood actress Madhuri dixit, portraying numerous looks of her  on a canvas.  He even once booked an entire theater for a Madhuri dixit’s movie.

Many crazy fan incidents has always been encountered by the celebrities and especially the film stars. ‘Vivah’ actress Amrita Rao received a wedding proposal by a fan after he loved her in the movie by sending her a embellished wedding card, the full history of his lineage and ancestors and introduction of his full family to win her heart for marriage.

Many a times cricketers do also encounter such madness in the form of their fan following.


Master blaster Sachin Tendulkar has an immense fan following. One of his fans Sudhir Kumar Chaudhary who is believed to be his greatest fan makes it a point to be present in each of his match irrespective of the place it is taking place in any corner of the world travelling thousands of km for a single day match. He can be well recognized as he is painted all over in the colors of tricolor. People spend fortunes for sending their favorite celebrities gifts and souvenirs.

But this is also a harsh reality that these loving fan fraternities does not step back even once, to throw brickbats at their fans if they do not approve of celebrities performances or personal deeds. The house of M.S. Dhoni in his hometown Ranchi was badly pelted by his fans, going to the extent of shouting slogans for him to die and burning effigies, when India lost a match against Bangladesh in 2013.

Similarly a slight misunderstandings on the part of the media and media reporting a statement not intended as seen overlooks a rage against these celebrities. Sometimes the personal comments about a social issue by these famous people are not taken well by the fans. A personal opinion of the super star Shah Rukh Khan on the rising intolerance in India saw a ban and boycott of his movie by the audiences, though both had no relation with each other. But yes after all everything concerning the celebrities is public for the fans.

For the layman celebrities are both a fascination and an escapist dream-both being more necessary in life than one may imagine. A person who once is able to win the hearts of the public enjoys immense love , affections and blessings of the public. Thousands of people flock in front of the house of Amitabh Bachchan every Sunday to just to see him once.

As much as this is the reality, it is also a truth that as soon as these celebrities are away from our eyes, they get away from the minds as well. One small mistake, one wrong statement and one flop movie brings them back to their own underground world, isolated and alienated. Until a celebrity acts as desired by the public he is a hero, otherwise another human  lost in the crowd, after a matter of time.

There is no regulator or remote control of the public’s feelings, at one point they are God for thousands of people and next moment nothing, unrecognizable. At one point they do experience a wave of love and life, but they should be ready for the dark hours too. Though disturbing it may be but so short lived is the grandeur of their fairy tale life.



एक चमक त्योहारों की



त्योहारों की एक अलग बात होती है, एक अलग चमक। एक हमारे त्यौहार ही तो होते है जो हमे अपने, और अपने परिवारों के होने का एहसास दिलाते है। कितना अद्भुत समय होता है जब कोई त्यौहार के आने पर पूरा परिवार अपनी व्यक्तिगत जीवन से एक दूसरे के लिए समय निकलता है और एकजुट हो पुरे प्यार और अपनेपन से खुशियां मनाता है।
अपनी पढ़ाई, नौकरी और जीवन के बाकी झंझटों से दूर वो परिवार के साथ बिताये कुछ घंटे पूरे साल भर के लिए काफी हो जाते है।बड़ों का एक्स्ट्रा प्यार , भाई बहनों संग खिंचा तानी , पारंपरिक परिधानों में तैयार होकर हमारी संस्कृति के नियमों को वो साल के कुछ दिन निभाना। इन सब की ख़ुशी ही अलग रहती है।

अब रक्षाबंधन के त्यौहार को ही देख लीजिए।हम चाहे कितने ही बड़े या स्वतंत्र हो जाये। अपनी अपनी ज़िन्दगी मैं कितने ही मशगूल हो जाए , पर इस दिन अपने भाई बहनों को याद करना नहीं भूलत। हाथ में बहन के द्वारा बांधी हुई राखी की शायद दूसरे दिन कोई मूल्य न रहे , पर जब राखी के दिन वो उसे हमारे हाथ में बांधती है तब एक बहन के होने का गर्व और ख़ुशी शायद ही किसी और आधिपत्य मे हो।

बहनो को भले ही वो तोफहो और पैसो की ज़रूरत न हो पर उनके रूप में मिलने वाला प्यार और अपनापन , दोनो के बीच में होने वाली छेड़छाड़ ही अमूल्य है।वो राखी का कार्यक्रम कुछ समय का ही होता है पर उसकी तयारी दोनों ही भाई बहन कई दिनों से करते है। हम आसपास न हो पर एक दूसरे को राखी और तोहफे भेज कर अपना प्यार भेज देते है । और यही है इस त्यौहार की खूबसुरती।

हो न हो इन सबका समावेश ही है जो हमारी नीरस और बुझी हुई ज़िन्दगी मैं एक नए रंग भरती है। ये त्यौहार ही हमे एक सुरक्षित, सुन्दर और अपने वातावरण में होने का एहसास दिलाती है।